Have you ever wondered why you quit a career or a relationship? If so, have you considered whether the external or internal factors influenced that decision?
When we choose to quit a career or a relationship, we often attribute it to others and say things like, “I quit because he/she made me….”
We tend to focus on who or what caused us to quit rather than why we made that decision. We rarely say, “I quit because I….”
While quitting for others may seem noble, it is not a sustainable solution. It may lead to negative feelings such as disappointment, anger, or resentment. Therefore, it is essential to ask ourselves whether we prioritize our needs when making choices.
If you frequently quit for others, it may be time to re-evaluate your priorities….
- Are you quitting because you are no longer interested or motivated, or are you doing so because someone else wants you to?
- If someone is pressuring you to quit, ask yourself if you would still be doing it if they hadn’t asked.
- Consider whether your decision is based on fear, obligation, or a genuine belief that it is the best choice for you.
It is essential to ensure that you are not letting your insecurities or fear of disappointing others hamper your decision-making.
Self-care is not selfish; it is a regular and intentional process that prioritizes our needs before we take care of others. We must prioritize our well-being to be there for others in the best possible way.
Therefore, it is crucial to understand why we are quitting….
- Talk to someone you trust about why you are considering quitting.
- Seek advice on how to overcome your feelings and make a plan to stay committed to your goal.
- Create accountability for yourself and break down your goal into smaller, achievable steps so it doesn’t feel overwhelming.
- Keep yourself motivated, and reward yourself for your progress towards achieving your goal.
- Find ways to stay positive such as listening to podcasts, reading books, and surrounding yourself with positive people.
- If you need to take a break from your goal, do so, but return to it with renewed energy and focus.
Remember, when we quit for ourselves …..
- We unlock our full potential and align our actions with our core values and beliefs.
- We become ready and able to face any challenges that come our way because we know we are doing it for ourselves and not for others.
What motivates us internally is what matters the most. We cannot give what we do not have within ourselves.
In the past, I used to say, “If you take care of me, I will take care of you.” Now, I say, “I will take care of me for you if you take care of you for me.”
Next time you decide to quit, ask yourself, “How am I letting myself down”?
By understanding our reasons for quitting, we can make informed decisions that align with our values and beliefs. It allows us to take charge of our lives and create a fulfilling future for ourselves.
